Ways to boost your confidence
Are you someone who feels the need to find ways to boost your confidence? There are many ways in which you can do so. This is important to bear in mind, as it will stop you from feeling that all is lost or as though you cannot make any improvements to how you feel about yourself. You can always improve how you feel about yourself, and remembering that is one of the most important keys to actually being able to do so.
Keep in mind that if you are feeling depressed you should seek professional help. It does not really matter if the depression was caused by feelings of low self-esteem and low confidence or the other way around.
Of course, one of the things that most people find affects their confidence is their appearance, and in particular there are a few specific things which are likely to do so more than others. In this article, we are going to take a look at some of these specifically, so you can know what you might want to work on in order to keep your confidence as high as possible.
How are your teeth?
One of the appearances that affect a person is their teeth. Most people are at least a little self-conscious about their teeth, and it is not too hard to understand why. After all, everyone sees your teeth, and having a good smile is often one of the most attractive traits that you can possibly have. A smile is also something that people tend to associate with confidence. Make a point of keeping your teeth as clean and close to perfect as possible, and you will almost certainly feel that it makes you feel much more confident overall. Of course, there are many things to think about in relation to keeping your teeth looking great. You might need to focus on specific issues such as any chipped teeth or gaps you might have. You will also want to keep your oral hygiene up and keep bad breath at bay. All of this really will make a difference in how you feel about yourself.
Talking about hygiene,
Do not just stop your hygiene with your teeth. Take a shower regularly or a relaxing bath. Feeling clean and taken care of will help change your outlook for the day. Take care of your skin and hair. Wear a little makeup if this is your thing. In addition, wear nice, clean clothes that fit well and make you feel comfortable.
“Every day is a new day” By Diana Ross
Neel Burton is author of Growing from Depression, The Meaning of Madness, The Art of Failure: The Anti Self-Help Guide, Hide and Seek: The Psychology of Self-Deception, Heaven and Hell: The Psychology of the Emotions, and other books.
The relationship between low self-esteem and mental disorder and mental distress is very complex. Low self-esteem predisposes to mental disorder, which in turn knocks self-esteem. In some cases, low self-esteem is in itself a cardinal feature of mental disorder, as, for example, in depression or borderline personality disorder.
Finally, remember those wise words of Lao Tzu: Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.
See his related post, The Secret of Self-Esteem
16 Simple strategies
Some simple strategies you can do to help change the way you see yourself and boost your confidence:
1. Be good to yourself and turn negatives into positives.
Make a list of what you do and do not like about yourself. Look close at this list. Go to the “I do not like” list and re-write this list by making it sound positive. For example:” I do not like that I am overweight”. Change this into “I accept how my current weight is”.
2. Eat healthy
Eating healthy and being physical active are crucial to feeling good. Go outside for a walk; enjoy the sun and the sights and sounds of nature.
3. Make time for “me”.
We often forget that self-care is important. It is not selfish to take care of your own person so in turn you can care for others. Parents and health care providers are so used to care for others that they forget to take care of their own person.
4. Get enough sleep.
In addition to eating healthy and being active, getting enough sleep is equally important. Shift work can be very hard on sleeping well. Create an environment that will induce sleep as much as possible. Try earplugs and face mask to keep sights and sounds to a minimum. The right essential oils may help with stress reduction and sleep.
5. Make a list
Make a list of what you have accomplished and what you are proud of. You may even want to frame this and hang on a wall as a visual reminder when things get tough.
Visualize how you want you ideal perfect self to be. Make a mood board of your future self and do not forget to include the things you want to achieve!
7. Try and try again.
Do not give up after the first try. Practice makes perfect as the saying goes and The Notre Dame de Paris was not build in one day.
8. Check your posture.
Make eye contact when talking to a person, it makes them feel that you are confident. Smile and straighten your posture. Having hunched shoulders will make you look and feel less confident, so straighten up and smile!
9. Be prepared!
Be as prepared as you possibly can when facing a task. The more you prepare and rehearse, the easier things will flow when you have to step up to the plate. For example speaking in front of a crowd can be very intimidating. I am by nature a shy, introverted person, standing in front of a class can bring me to the brink of a panic attack. Having notes and being prepared will help curb these feelings and boost confidence. The more you do something and put yourself out there, the more your self-confidence will grow, as well as your self-esteem. Then when you have accomplished your goal, even a small one, you will feel really great about yourself.
10. Knowledge is power.
Do not be afraid to say “I do not know this”. Resort to find out the answer instead. Nobody expects you to know or do everything. . Keep your mind active and learn new skills.
11. It is ok to be wrong.
Admit when you are wrong, it will make you a stronger person in the other’s eyes.
Powerful people can be intimidating and may make you feel that you are not good enough. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and make you feel good, like your family. Avoid bullies and negative people as much as possible. Learn to stand up for “you”.
13. Create and enjoy!
Be creative and do more of what you enjoy doing.
Clean your house and get rid of stuff. It will make cleaning easier and it feels good “to let go” of excess.
15. Be grateful.
Practice gratitude daily by writing down at least 5 things that make you feel grateful.
16. Follow your instinct.
Listen to your instinct, or gut feelings. More often than not, they are right and will help you steer into the right direction.
More great self esteem and self confidence boosters:
Confidence is a tool you can use in your everyday life to do all kinds of cool stuff, not least to stop second-guessing yourself, manage your fears and become able to do more of the things that really matter to you.
But not many people realize that their self-confidence works just like a muscle – it grows in response to the level of performance required of it. Either you use it or you lose it.
62. Never beat yourself up for failing or screwing up.
Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. They’ll be ups and downs, slow periods and super-fast periods.
The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron-core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world. Steve Errey
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Some great information and exercises from Neil Patel:
Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be over-confident.
If you are under-confident, you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself; and you might not try at all. And if you’re over-confident, you may take on too much risk, stretch yourself beyond your capabilities, and crash badly. You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed.
Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, you will take informed risks, stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard.
So how self confident are you? Take our short quiz to find out how self-confident you are already, and start looking at specific strategies to improve your confidence level.
And lastly a word from Dr Wayne W. Dyer Everyday Wishdom:
When you call yourself a jerk, that is your invisible critic judging your outer self. Remember, what you think about expands.
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