8 Tips on how to deal with change
Change: why it is indigenous (natural) and inevitable (certain)
Like death and taxes, change is a natural and certain part of living. Change is always coming, you can’t get around it, and it is as inborn and natural as breathing. Without change human beings would not have evolved into what we are today, and rests assure we are not done evolving and growing yet.
This does not mean we have to like change. Often change is difficult to accept, even changes we look forward too and we may have chosen. Like moving to a different house or city, or looking forward to getting married, or having a baby. All these are often positive changes we look forward too, but they will still trigger powerful emotions that affect the mind and body. Another word for this would be stress.
Change or stress can leave us feeling overwhelmed. And depending on the person or the situation, leave a person feeling paralyzed; which in turn can contribute to more stress.
How do you view change?
How we view change is key in how we are able to cope or deal with change. People who are naturally more positive inclined may view change as a challenge to learn, or an opportunity to get better. Those of us who tend to look more on the negative side of things may look at change as something to dread and fear.
Knowing how your tendencies are towards change and the feelings and emotions that come with these will help you to prepare yourself and develop coping strategies for those changes that feel threatening to us.
So how can we change our mindset and outlook of change to help us live a happier less stressful life in which change is inevitable?
Here are a few tips and strategies you can use:
1. Know that a change is happening, it can be a change you are looking forward too, like getting married; or it can be a change in your workplace that you are opposed to and changes that are beyond your control. Knowing something is happening will help defining it. Simple tools for example are writing things down that have to do with this change may help you see things more clearly and help with dealing with the emotions and feelings that come with it.
2. Being clear of your feelings can help you find what it is that you fear or worried about. Playing the “poor” me, or being stuck in resisting the change will leave you powerless and victimized. Getting a clear picture of your feelings and why you are having these feelings will give the power back to you.
3. View change as an opportunity and look for the positive or benefit of the change. And try to adopt an attitude of gratitude. The more you will be able to see something positive in the situation, the more you will be able to get excited about the change and maybe end up participating with the execution of the change.
4. You may not have control over the situation and the change that is happening, but you have control over your attitude and feelings. Looking for possibilities and opportunities will help foster a positive environment and will help with creative problem solving.
5. Accepting those things you cannot change, and doing something about the things you can, gives you empowerment and can open up choices you were not able to see before.
6. Learn to read how your body reacts to change (and stress), and concentrate on your breathing. Are you breathing with your stomach? Or are you breathing at the top of your lungs creating an even more stressed and anxious feeling? The more you can relax the better you are equipped to handle change in a positive way. Find different ways to relax hat work for you.
7. Looking at change as something of a process and part of a bigger picture may help put things more in perspective. And so giving you the chance and choice to deal with each step of the change process.
8. Keep track of the process by setting goals that are realistic and positive. And writing down how you are going to reach these goals will help. Every time you reach a goal you have contributed to a positive change and fulfilled a challenge that would otherwise have left you feeling powerless and victimized.
I hope these tips on how to deal with change has been helpful. What strategies do you have to deal with change? Leave a reply and I will get back to you.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Lao Tze